Breastfeeding

oh boy. im sorry but thats a screwed up family. how dare they not want what your son needs. please i beg you dont stop because of them. they will deal with it. you cannot love a child less for for getting the right stuff. im sorry that you have to go through that. whatever you do, dont stop. what happens if you do stop and he ends up with R.S.V. and is hospitalized? will they love him then? keep doing what is best for your baby and it also helps you too. if nothing else, pump and put it in a bottle when you are around them but dont stop giving him the breastmilk.

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!! If you are blessed with the ability to breastfeed then more power to you!!! I was not able to with my son b/c my milk didnt come in so I regret that everyday and feel guilty about that… Maybe you could try pumping so that when she is around you can “bottle feed”? Just a suggestion. I also think that you should take her to a la leche league meeting if she will agree so she can hear firsthand the benefits of breastfeeding babies. And tell your partner that he should be ashamed of himself! He shouldnt be letting his mommy bully him into making you feel guilty. You are looking out for BOTH of your child’s needs and well being and so should he!

freak that woman. she sounds dumb and liek she obviously doesnt want teh best for her grandbaby. if she doesnt want to come over then it’s her loss. just educate her and put your foot down. my fiance was never around breastfeeding much, in fact im young(20) so niether have hardly any of our friends and they didnt know much about it. now that i am they are very interested in it. my finaces mother wasnt very keen on it, but she had to get over it because thats what i am going to do. dont stop breastfeeding to please you MIL. my fiance had to tell his mother to back off about it because she was always asking when im goign to ween. i am going to ween at 1 year and my son is 7 1/2 months now. she has now finally educated ehrself and actually show support and tell me what a good thing im doing now. ***** them! seriously i would never stop just because someone else is being chilless, uneducated and selfish
tell your hubby that he needs to fly out of the nest and you and your baby are his family now

My fiance was not breastfed and he is so proud that i am and has educated himself on all the benifits now he tells everyone how wonderful it is:)
IN fact i have always exposed my ****** in front of her when she was in my house if she didnt like it, she could get out. see if i cared

If it were me I would simply reply “Well, that’s her loss.” OH WELL! You need to do what is best for your son and yourself, which is always nursing (unless you are unable or have some sort of pharmacy needs).

There are millions of reasons to nurse – health benefits for you, as in decreased incidence of both ovarian and ****** cancer, decreased incidence of type II diabetes for the next 15 years for every year of nursing for you, increased bone density and decreased risk of femur fracture after menopause, lowering of the blood LDLs and increased HDL (good fats) that are often messed up from being pregnant…

For your child increased IQ, decreased illnesses like ear infections and pneumonia, better bonding, decreased incidence of obesity as well as decreases in hypertension, type II diabetes, high LDL levels associated with obesity.

If his grandmother is that selfish and that ignorant, then maybe you need to stick to your guns for your child and yourself. Besides, is she going to foot the bill for the cost of formula and bottles? I don’t think so – and that’s money better spent on the baby! It IS NOT BETTER FOR EVERYONE, only one person who needs to … well I won’t say. You are doing the right thing and I am proud of you!

Continue to ****** feed your child!!!! The benefits out weigh the wishes of your Mother in law.

I was disappointed when my daughter-in-law was not able to ****** feed. However, I do not dwell on this and make her more upset.

Your husband and his mother obliviously have not read or do not believe in all the research. ****** fed babies are healthier as babies and also as adults. It is one of the best gifts a mother can give her child.

I think she is using this as an excuse. If you were to quit ****** feeding… she would find another. I am so sorry that your husband is not supportive in this. Perhaps if he were the one getting up in the middle of the night to warm bottles; he would change his tune.

In fact I would put him in charge of a night feeding supplemental bottle. NOW!!!!!!

Your his mom, you know what is best. Don’t quit and don’t feel bad just because she can’t deal with it. My parents are pretty weird about it too, my dad says she’s too old already to still be breastfed (she’s 4 months) but I think he says that b/c I usually take her to another room when they are around to breastfeed her and he feels like I’m keeping her from them. I wasn’t breastfed as a baby b/c of medical reasons, but my sister was and my mom told me my dad would get mad at her for breastfeeding when my sister was only 3 months old, he thought she was too old for it.

I’m not quitting b/c of his views, I enjoy bonding with my baby and believe you me…it not only gives your baby a full tummy, but it helps relieve a lot of stress.

i would continue to ****** feed, let the mother in law know why you have chosen breastfeeding, and ask her for her support, this is very sad i feel for you, i truly do, you have made the best desertion for your child, take one day at a time and join a support group for breastfeeding moms in your area

Don’t quit until you decide it’s time. If you make a choice based on someone else’s comfort level, you will come to regret it.

Could your partner feel somewhat left out? Maybe you could try pumping so you can take turns feeding. Sharing the responsibility might make things seem more even.

If your son’s grandmother can’t deal with you breastfeeding then consider inviting her over during times when he doesnt normally feed (which is tough with a 3 month old, I know).

Maybe if you have a face-to-face conversation about it she will feel better? i don’t know. I don’t really understand that mentality.

Have you been to the La Leche League website? There is tons of support available there.

Good luck.

If your MIL wants to make decisions about the care of a baby, she should have her own.

This is YOUR baby. YOUR body. YOUR decision.

And if she doesn’t want to see him because of bfing, that’s HER decision and HER loss.

There is lots of support over at – the mother-to-mother forums.

Quitting to make others more comfortable is the lamest thing ever (no offense intended). My dad was uncomfortable at first. My siblings and I were breastfed, but he would always leave the room. Now my son is 7 months old my dad is getting over it.

You are doing the best for your baby! There are lots of us rooting for you!

The amount of time that you will actually spend breastfeeding your baby is so small compared to the rest of his life. Maybe everyone else won’t be so concerned about it when he is a wonderful happy toddler. Good luck with your decision.