Breastfeeding

They’re your *******… do with them what you will.

It is a selfish choice I think, sometimes it’s right to be selfish if the situation would cause stress or bad feelings but you will only get one chance to breastfeed your precious little one and you may regret it later if you don’t experience it.

If you are not comfortable with ****** feeding, then don’t. When a woman is not into breastfeeding, its not a good experience for her or the baby. Bonding during breastfeeding is important, but you can achieve the same thing by cuddling and making sure your baby knows you as the mommy. Do what you want.

Breast feeding is the best thing for a baby and the baby’s health. The other side benefits are, quicker health recovery for the woman. The uterus gets back into shape and ****** feeding women tend not to have saggy bags in later years, staying firm and perky.

Since you have the ******* it is your choice, but it is your husband’s baby too and you should respect his thoughts.

I personally agree with him, that it is selfish not to at least try….some women are fine with it after initial misgivings.
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I did it for 8 months, it was the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life (include my masters degree thesis) REALLY the hardest. I didn’t really like it all that much, but it was the best thing for my child so I did it.

Parenting is not about even steven…..besides once the baby is at least 6 weeks old, you can pump and let him get up.

To not do something because you think it is icky is rather immature.

That said, if you’re going to resent him and your baby for it, and your heart is not in it, you’re going to fail.

I say at least try for two weeks…give your baby the best start and you may like it. It does get easier every week, it is the best food for your baby, and it is much cheaper.

You two should take a breastfeeding class together.

There have been 2 improvements in childbirth during the history of man; the epidural and bottle feeding. I took advantage of both.

Both of my sons are exceptionally healthy and in gifted classes. My brother and I were bottle-fed and we both have exceptional school records – both have Master’s degrees and have always been very healthy.

Personally, I think it is your husband who is selfish. It should be your choice – unless you want to move to the Middle East.

I never ****** fed i personally didn’t like the idea of it either ,even though it is healthier for the baby that is true. it seemed like everyone one was always telling me to do it,family,friends,even my doctor and it upset me that they were trying to pressure me into doing something that I didn’t want to.your husband is wrong for wording it the way he did it doesn’t make you selfish your baby wont be neglected it’s not like your saying you wont feed him you just chose to bottle feed like millions of people do everyday. and it is ultimately your choice no one Else’s. he doesn’t have ****** or the option to ****** feed so it’s your decision,but it doesn’t make him a bad person he’s just thinking about whats best for his baby.

I agree with your husband that it is selfish. I mean you hear all of the things about it’s your choice since it’s your body but what about the chidl’s choice. They cannot choose what they’ll eat at this point, you have to choose for them. Why would you not choose the healthiest of the 2 options?? I know it may be uncomfortable for you think of but you never know unless you try it. Oh & as far as getting up in the middle of the night not being fair..that’s life & breastfeeding is MUCH easier than formula feeding in that aspect. You don’t have to heat the bottle, you get up, grab the baby, lay back down & feed the child. It’s much much quicker, I have found. At least give it a try, you owe your baby that much! It’s also a myth that you may not have enough milk, so don’t let that stop you either.

i don’t personally like the idea of changing diapers. **** grosses me out. why should I have to use MY HANDS for that? ewww… It isn’t fair that i have to sometimes change diapers in the middle of the night.

Now, with that in mind….

No it should not be a choice! Formula should only be used in a situation where mother’s milk simply isn’t available. Your husband is right. Why would you rather give your baby cow’s breastmilk?
parenting is not about convenience. it is about doing what is best for your baby. Do you want the **** to thrive? Or merely survive.

Breast is not best, ITS NORMAL! Everything else is substandard.

Please go to and read everything you can.

I believe is fair enougth that is our choice to do it or not to do it. Iguess, you shouldn’t do it because of what your husband thinks or what anybody else say about it. (well you have to take in count the doctor’s advices as always).

Anyway, you should do it for your self, you migth find in that choice – ****** feeding – some advantages for you, i tell you by my own experience.

First, If you do it, that migth help you to loose the waight you gained during pregnancy, it´s dificult sometime to return to your original size, and feeding your baby will help you, if you keep eating healty because he will use lots of the nutrients from what you are eating.

Second, the moment of the feeding is a natural bound that you are going to make with your baby, you wouldn’t get it in any other way. The baby smells, and know who you are specially because of the feeding, he or she will do it anyway, but that will make it stronger i can tell you.

Third, you will feel so proud of your self, as you will never be with any other acomplishment you achieve. I have found that being as better mom as i can have given me the better feelings of my self i have ever had – i am a good person in general, and i am a professional and good on what i do – it´s not only a lack of oporttunities to be proud of my self. But this have been specially reconforting, and its so refreshing the acknowledge of this little person that would be completely dependent on you, for only a couple of months that i wouldn’t change it for anything.

So, don’t think about the nights, you migth find some support by asking your husband to bring the baby to you. Sometimes the babies will sleep for more than 5 hours, if you help him by giving him the environment for it, and you try to sleep at the time he or she is sleeping.

I hope you find this encouraging, because it is specially important for the babies health, and it will be for the bound you are doing with him or her.

Good luck.

I agree with your husband. “I just don’t want to” isn’t a good enough reason IMO, especially when it comes to your baby’s health. Having BTDT, breastfeeding is a heck of a lot easier in the middle of the night than preparing a bottle of formula, especially if you co-sleep. Try it for a good 3 months, once you get past the initial confusion of trying something new I bet you’ll be glad you didn’t give up.

I think breastmilk is every baby’s birthright. It’s much easier to switch from ****** to bottle than from bottle back to ******. The immunities that are provided by breastfeeding are very important. The colostrum (first milk) acts as baby’s first immunization. Personally, I would suggest that you commit to at least giving it a try. Try for the time you are in the hospital. Or commit to the first 2 weeks. Or commit to doing it until you get back to work, if you are doing so. Then somewhere in there, make a decision about how you feel about continuing it and if you like it or not. I really think it’s far too important to totally write off the possibility without even trying.

ITs really your choice. if your not comfortable with the idea then dont do it. Breastmilk is best but if you dont want to pump or nurse then give the baby formula. I asked my hubby and he said it was up to me that it was my body. being a mother is never fair hun, moms dont get sick days! would be nice though! you will do everything to give your child a good start on life! just because you choose not to ****** feed doesnt make you selfish. What about women who are unable to ****** feed, are they selfish as well? i would talk to your husband in depth about this but ulitimatly its your decision because its your body.